First time managers need to fail

This is the article which really impressed me when i gone thru the ZdnetAsia.  

This gonna be really helpful to the Wanna be Managers. 

One of the greatest impediments to first-time project managers' success is their need to succeed. There are three things they really need--and early success isn't one of them.

Nothing succeeds like success, except in project management where nothing succeeds like failure.

Managing an IT project is very difficult, especially the first time you try it. The project manager's days and nights are filled with stress, worry, dreams, aspirations, and fear. Some first timers are overwhelmed by their newfound power, while some are weighed down by the responsibility.

But for most, the overriding concern is to avoid both personal and project failure.

This fear is often instilled and/or reinforced by the project manager's supervisor. The new assignment is often initiated with comments like, "Don't screw this up." "This is your big chance to shine.” Or, "don’t make me look bad and regret giving you this opportunity." Trust me, those sorts of comments really help first timers succeed.

For the project manager, this sort of fear is not only counterproductive, but also misplaced. In fact, I think that every first time project manager desperately needs to fail. That's right. I'm not just saying that it's ok to fail; I’m saying that if they don't fail, they may never learn to be effective project managers. In fact, complete success may set their management careers back by years.

As a manager, consultant, trainer, and coach, I've had the opportunity to work with hundreds of first-time project managers, and I've become convinced that one of the greatest impediments to their success is their need to succeed. If against all odds they do manage to succeed, they fall prey to the twin career killers, arrogance and self-confidence, depriving them of the opportunity to grow and learn.

Project management is such a complex discipline that it is completely impossible for a first timer to have mastered all the subtleties of task, people and risk management. In fact, it's impossible for anyone, no matter how experienced, to have mastered it all. The successful first timer is invariably lulled into a false sense of security that they know much more than they really do. They become convinced that they are now fully-fledged managers and can take on anything.

What's more dangerous is that they get brain freeze. They stop learning. Why learn when you have mastered a topic?

It can take two or three failed projects to undo the career damage inflicted by early success before a new project manager reclaims the humility and open-mindedness that they started with. Unfortunately, by that time, their careers have probably absorbed major damage. It is one thing to be seen as making a few mistakes as a first timer; it's another to have demonstrated a pattern of failure. Both the manager's image and self-image have been irretrievably damaged.

So what does the first timer need?

• A few big mistakes
• Permission to make those mistakes
• Coaching and introspection to learn from them

If you are a first-time project manager, be prepared for some problems along the way. Relax and enjoy the ride. No one will lose respect for you.

If you are the manager of a first timer, give them permission to make mistakes. When they do, make sure that they learn from them and don't make the same ones again. Coach them about the sources of problems and the meaning of their failures. It's normal for them to have difficulties, but make sure that you view them as training investments and not as screw-ups. Your job is to ensure that you get the maximum return on investment for the training that mistakes offer.

Becoming a project manager is hard work, but a little failure will help make the transition from individual producer to manager more successful.

It's my life ...song for you all

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Commitment, passion are new mantras of reaching heights

I believe commitment and passion are true mantras to embrace the success. If some one has these two in his/her kitty, I am sure can fight against any odds. For instance, An IIM(A), Sarath who was graduated from the prestigious management Institute IIM-A, had denied the tempting corporate offer and become entrepreneur by establishing a Food King in Chennai. Serving food is an extremely satisfactory thing in his life. Now his company has become a well established with aim to provide employment to 1500 poor and semi illiterate people in India. He had confronted odds in his life. he has come from a very poor family, whose mother used to sell Idlis in the payments of chennai streerts. Now he is contesting for Assembly election from the chennai constitute. All the best for the Innovative entrepreneur in his new role of "NETA" to climb up new heights.

truely deeply madly

* I'll be your dream, I'll be your wish I'll be your fantasyI'll be your hope, I'll be your love be everything that you needI love you more with every breath truly madly deeply doI will be strong I will be faithful 'cause I'm counting onA new beginning.A reason for living.A deeper meaning.** I want to stand with you on a mountainI want to bathe with you in the seaI want to lay like this foreveruntil the sky falls down on meAnd when the stars are shining brightly in the velvet sky,I'll make a wish send it to heaven then make you want to cryThe tears of joy for all the pleasure in the certaintyThat we're surrounded by the comfort and protection ofThe highest powers. In lonely hours. The tears devour you **Oh can't you see it baby?You don't have to close your eyes'Cause it's standing right here before youAll that you need will surely come

Second day: Saturday

Wow. I can say its memorable, terrific day. Here I am e-inking my memorable moments that I spent on the Saturday. Do not take everything very close to the heart. So here I go.

In the evening, as we started to drive towards Taco Mac, cool breeze joined us. As we entered in to the Taco Mac, there were two waitress asked us to wait for some time, came out to enjoy the cool breeze. One among them was gorgeous… There at the end left corner, Indian was sitting with a glass of beer. To astound, waitress asked to sit next to the Indian sitting table. Menu was infront of us. I ordered one buffalo chicken(Its pure chicken item guys…) with salsa fries. We joined a passport club. This passport club useful I guess only for the one who has amazing ability to drink, so one’s name would be placed on the top of the club. for this, said one have to reach up to 90 beers. There were around 800 types of beers.In fact, two of our friends got T-shirts, by reaching 13 beers.
But to scare, each beer cost you some where around $5, is it does not sufficient, there are taxes. Taxes are very high in US. Buffalo wings and Salsa cost me around $15.86. Here I need pendown about the server.Because we chanted her name for the three days. She was terrific, named as Brooke. She is just around 18. She told us that as she is minor, does not take a beer in the public places. She messed up so many things while she getting bills for us. We preferred to pay individually. We become close all together with just single treat. For not to reach your expectations, my friend asked Brooke to go on a date. She said firmly, that she could wish to do that. Amazing..wonderful…. praising so much, but she deserved. we have given a tip of $2 each. So she managed to get some where around $10.As we return back to home, my friend mayank almost hitting the pole near to house.some how managed... So here it all about the saturday..

First day in US

Here i wanted to jotted down my experiences in week basis. First past by, here i go..
We landed in the Chicago airport @ around 5 Am early morning. we had to rush in to the re check-in baggage and thrown our baggage. We had have enough time to catch up with the
Atlanta flight ( final destination). Finally we managed to reach there. We were desperately looking for a food. In the airport, we have paid $8.7(450Rs around) bucks to get 2 pieces of bread. I was interested in Apples. But my friend insisted to eat me this. I guess I am fanatic. But this time, I listened to his tunes. I have to learn one thing firmly in my life saying “NO”. finally we managed to ate 2 pieces of bread.

We had some fun time relaxing our eyes by looking at the girls. They were awesome.
We took a flight to Atlanta at around 10 am. These inter state flights are very small in size but not in sound pollution.
Anshul’s uncle and aunty have come. Then took a cab to heading towards apartment.
We had witnessed wide roads, big trees, building, and cars. There were so many cars, that I never imagine that I would see. Believe me, first day, I was witnessed only 3 bi-cycles.Since we had to collect the keys from the Mayank, we plunk to the doors till 4:30pm.Eventually, we entered in to our house. Since, we were tired, prepared some maggies and slept till the morning.

Flying to US

Its been long waiting. Finally ended up with my new company. I am talking about US visit. I donot know why i am crazy about. But I am. I used to tell to my friends that, if i do not get a chance to fly to US, I would rather go to Nepal or Srilanka before go to marriage. Its not to lure to dowry. In fact, i hate it. I believe, built your empire on your own.
As said, i am flying to Atlanta. I will give my GMAT in the very first month and will rock in followed months in the US. Once, got tickets, started dreaming about the US n Atlanta, getting info on weather reporting,places to hang on, restaurents etc. Forgot to tell you, we are due with shopping. Car has been booked in the US for our official.But we use it for unofficial as well. we have seen the Hotel in the net. it is damn good. Only thing left behind is, step down at Atlanta.
me accompanying with a colleague. He is a wonderful guy kind of me.